Managing Challenging Behaviors with ABA: What Really Works
Meltdowns. Refusing to follow directions. These moments are hard for any parent — but especially when they’re happening daily. At Sunny Skies ABA, we help families understand the why behind challenging behaviors, and more importantly, how to respond with strategies that actually work.
What Counts as a Challenging Behavior?
Every child is different, but some of the common behaviors we see include:
Tantrums or frequent crying
Aggression (hitting, biting, kicking)
Running away or not following directions
Self-injury (head banging, scratching)
Repetitive actions that interfere with learning
These behaviors often aren’t "bad" — they’re communication. ABA helps us figure out what your child is trying to say.
Understanding the “Why”: Behavior Has a Function
In ABA, we don’t just look at what a child does — we ask why. Every behavior serves a purpose. Most fall into one of these categories:
To gain attention
To escape a task or demand
To get access to something (like a toy or snack)
For automatic relief (like calming down through repetition)
Once we identify the function, we can teach a better way to meet that need.
How ABA Responds to Challenging Behaviors
Here’s how we address tough behaviors at Sunny Skies ABA:
Observe Patterns: What happens before and after the behavior?
Teach Replacement Skills: We don’t just say “stop” — we show a better way to get the same result (like saying “no” instead of hitting).
Reinforce the Positive: We reward the new behavior so it becomes the go-to.
Use Consistent Responses: Everyone — parents, teachers, and therapists — responds the same way, so the child gets a clear message.
Examples of Real Strategies We Use
A child who throws toys to get attention is taught to say “look at me!” and gets praised for using words.
A child who runs away from difficult tasks learns to ask for a break — and is allowed to take one when they use the new skill.
A child who screams when denied a snack is taught to use a picture or word to request alternatives calmly.
Every plan is personalized, measured, and adjusted often.
What Parents Can Do at Home
Stay calm — your reaction teaches just as much as your words.
Be consistent — follow through every time.
Don’t accidentally reward the wrong thing (like giving in to stop the tantrum).
Praise effort, not just perfection.
You’re not alone in this. Your therapy team will guide you step by step.
Final Message: Progress Is Possible
Challenging behaviors are tough — but they don’t have to be permanent. With patience, strategy, and teamwork, we can help your child communicate better, feel more in control, and experience fewer outbursts.
At Sunny Skies ABA, we believe every behavior is a window into your child’s needs — and we’re here to help you respond with skill and compassion.
